Egomaniac Mother Tries To Overshadow Her Daughter's Wedding By Re-Marrying Her Dad Who She Divorced Three Times

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elina lee
May 19, 2023 7:00 PM EDT

You know what they say - you can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. And while that's great and everything when it comes to the friends part, what are we left to do with the narcissistic parents who are complete psychotic egomaniacs? Say what you want about parenting, but one thing you can't deny is that many if not all of our traumas stem from our childhood. Some people are blessed with parents that try their best - whatever that may look like. And others are blessed with those that try their best to outshine you. And as a child, there's nothing worse than feeling like you're not important enough to your parents. 

Welp, this brings us to today's story about yet another egocentric mom that requires all of the attention all of the time. This story comes with a pre-story, so get ready for some quality reading. 

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    Human body - Posted by u/thebridenotthewife 24 days ago AITA for not going to my parents wedding before they get divorced again?
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    Font - So my(26f) parents (b50) got married when I was five and I was the flower girl. Around when I was ten they got divorced which no one saw coming because they NEVER fought. I feel like I have to mention my parents are both very wealthy and kept finances separate and so it was an easy divorce and obviously they could pay for it.
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    "I feel like I have to mention my parents are both very wealthy and kept finances separate and so it was an easy divorce and obviously they could pay for it." 

    We feel like this is a very important detail of the story. You know, just in case you start asking yourself who on earth would re-marry the same person a million times??? who has the money for four weddings??? Welp, rich people obviously. 

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    Font - When I was about 17ish they decided to get back together. Me being 17, was overjoyed and was a bridesmaid at their second wedding. I really hope you see where this is going but they ended up separating again. They didn't tell anyone and didn't get a divorce but we all knew they were separated and 3 years later they wanted to "renew their vows" in which I was asked to buy a nice dress for the occasion.
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    Font - Surprise! They got divorced! Again! And only after 3 months after their renewal. After that I sort of just lived my own life because I wasn't exactly thrilled at whatever they were doing and honestly really over it.
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    Font - So a few days ago I got an invite in the mail to my parents 3/4th wedding after 6 years and so I called my mom about it. She was super excited and told me I was old enough to be her MOH and that she wants me to buy a 1500 dress. That's a solid No from me. I told her I'd be her MOH but I'm either going to wear the original bridesmaid dress (which is a cream color) or the other nice one I got (which is brown) because I'm not buying a 1500 dollar dress. She freaked out and told me that those
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    Font - Which is true. I got an inheritance from my grandfathers passing. However, when my fiancé and I moved in together, he made clear he didn't want me to be paying for most things and he wants to do it 50/50. So we got a small apartment that he could afford to pay his share of and all of my extra money is in savings/college fund because we want a large family of 5-7 kids and they are... well expensive. So I reminded my mom of that and told her that I also would like to use my money on other t
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    Font - My mom called me a spoiled brat and that I'm wasting my privilege (I have no words) and that I'm telling her I won't be apart of my own parents wedding. I told her that I was going to be willing to show up to the wedding and not be the MOH, but at this point I'm not showing up at all and told her to call me when they get their next divorce. I hung up and got a slew of nasty emails from my family throughout the day and my friends are divided on if I made the right call with the premise tha
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    Font - babcock27 23 days ago ● Mom just wants a bunch of weddings. If she wants to waste her money that way, fine. But she can't tell you how to spend yours. She's selfish and is jealous of your money and wants to spend it for you. NTA
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    Font - UPDATE: AITA for not going to my parents wedding before they get divorced again?
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  • 10
    Font - I ended up calling my mom and was going to make a decision with however it went. She started off the conversation that she didn't need me to be apart of the wedding party because her and my dad were "having trouble having the best people" (aka no one will do it again lol) so they were going to scratch that part of the wedding and it was "all about them anyway". So I told them I was coming as a guest and after I made plans with my cousin to give me a lift so I wasn't spending a single cent
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    Font - Now my fiancé and I go over to their house for dinner once a month so we went over there Saturday. As I mentioned before in a comment or two, my fiancé grew up financially insecure and so I struggle with convincing him to do something nice for himself once in a while. I did however just convince him to spend part of our savings to do a really nice honeymoon in Greece since we are doing a small wedding. It took some pulling of teeth but he now won't stop getting travel books and researchin
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    Font - It was a fairly pleasant dinner until my own wedding planning came up. I told them that we were pretty much set with the wedding, but we were having out details on Greece. My mom got visibly upset and excused herself and my dad followed. I was pretty confused but they came back and my dad calmly explained that my mom feels very hurt that I'd be willing to spend thousands of dollars on my honeymoon but wouldn't shell out money for their wedding.
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    Font - I was pretty dumbfounded and said "Well we are willing to have an expense on the honeymoon because we are only getting married once " So yeah I got kicked out of the house and uninvited from the wedding not super torn up about it, and this is now my fiancés favorite story to tell Happy holidays ya'll!
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    Font - babcock27 13 days ago . She can spend her own money on an expensive dress she chose for her daughter to buy. She just wants access to her daughter's money and doesn't believe she has a right to spend it on herself and her own honeymoon. She HAS to be the center of attention and she's doing it to complete with OP.
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